Here are three lessons about relationships that I learned from my mother:
- Always be loyal to your loved ones.
- If you really like someone, you’ll do anything to spend time with them. My mother did not believe in wishy-washy feelings. If he loves you, he’ll move the moon to be with you. If she is hemming or hawing about spending time together, she probably isn’t the right one.
- Respect your closest family members. There’s a saying that goes, “Treat your family like guests and treat your guests like family.” My mother modeled the importance of respecting those closest to her – whether it meant always speaking to my father in a respectful tone or how she refrained from talking about her marriage with her friends, his honor was always sacrosanct.
The best marriage advice from my parents is: “Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling.” My husband is an attorney and I’m a full-time entrepreneur, so this advice has served us well throughout our busy lives. Making each other a priority is the key to a loving and fulfilling marriage.
The best marriage advice I ever received was from my mother – and it was the same advice her mother-in-law gave her when she married my dad: “Invest in the largest mattress you can afford.”
It turns out that even though you think you want to cuddle all the time when you’re first married, having room to sleep comfortably is really helpful, both in terms of getting enough sleep and also having your own space (even in bed!).